Overview of Modules
The Good Enough Parenting Method
Module 1a
How Good Enough Parenting Is Unique; How Schemas Fit into the Programme; The Importance of the Parent-Child Relationship
- How is Good Enough Parenting (GEP) different from other parenting programmes?
- The GEP model explained.
- The importance of the parent-child relationship and how it affects outcome in children all the way to adulthood.
- The association between Nurturing and Exasperation Interactions, Core Emotional Needs, and with positive and negative schemas respectively.
- Definition of schemas, both positive and negative with animations.
- The Core Emotional Needs and what they are.
Module 1b
The “Pain” versus “Gain” of Past Parenting Experiences; The Ten Exasperation Interactions
- Which has a greater impact on children, positive or negative experiences? The “Loss Aversion Theory” in parenting.
- The ten (10) Exasperation Interactions identified in Eastern and Western cultures.
- Identifying Exasperation Interaction/s between you and your child.
Module 1c
The Absence of Exasperation Interactions is Not the Same as the Presence of Nurturing Interactions; The Seven Nurturing Interactions
- Are Exasperation Interactions simply a negative version of Nurturing Interactions, or are they separate parent-child interactions?
- The seven (7) Nurturing Interactions identified in Eastern and Western cultures.
- Identifying Nurturing Interaction/s between you and your child.
Module 2a
The Importance of a Healthy Marriage; The Role of Temperament
- How does the quality of a marriage affect a child?
- The role of temperament in outcome in children’s behavior – The three coping styles – Surrendered, Avoidant and Counterattacking and identifying them in your child and in you.
Module 2b
How Positive and Negative Schemas are Associated with Connection and Acceptance
- The positive and negative schemas that are associated with the Core Emotional Need for Connection and Acceptance.
- Definition of these positive and negative schemas.
Module 2c
The Importance of Spending One on-One Time with Each Child; The Importance of Play
- Practicals on meeting the Core Emotional Need for Connection and Acceptance
- The importance of spending one-on-one time with each child regardless of age.
- Why is play so difficult and the importance of play in the outcome in children.
- The role of fathers
Module 2d
The Importance of Meal Times; How to Listen Empathically to Your Children
- The importance of meal times and how to create a positive atmosphere.
- Ways to listen empathically to your children
- When is it not appropriate to show empathy to children
Module 2e
Processing Emotions in Your Children
- Identifying the emotions parents feel uncomfortable seeing in their children
- Coping with uncomfortable emotions
- Possible origins of these feelings
- Examples of Appropriate Nurturing Interactions for Connection and Acceptance
Module 3a
How Positive and Negative Schemas are Associated with Healthy Autonomy and Performance; Giving Child Age Appropriate Choices
- The positive and negative schemas that are associated with the Core Emotional Need for Healthy Autonomy and performance.
- Definition of these positive and negative schemas.
- Examples of age appropriate choices
Module 3b
Choosing the Right Battles; Monitoring Parent’s Agenda; Communicating like You are on the Same Team
- Identifying which issues are worth going to battle with and why
- Identifying parents’ private agenda that triggers conflict
- Getting unified with spouse and communicating like a team with your child
- Examples of Appropriate Nurturing Interactions for Healthy Autonomy and Performance
Module 4a
How Positive and Negative Schemas are Associated with Reasonable Limits
- The positive and negative schemas that are associated with the Core Emotional Need for Reasonable Limits.
- The unhealthy messages from the internet
- Protecting your child from the dangers of early exposure of sex and violence
Module 4b
Needs, Wants, Rights and Privileges; Steps to Avoid Conflict with Children (Part 1)
- Definition of needs, wants, rights and privileges.
- The misconception on the use of electronic device as “rights” of children
Module 4c
Steps to Avoid Conflict with Children (Part 2)
- How we enter into a Vortex of Conflict with our children
- How we stay clear of the vortex
Module 4d
Understanding the Teenage Brain and Their Tendencies
- Understanding when brains stop developing
- How are brains of teenagers different from adults
- How to help teens develop self-control and strengthen their prefrontal cortex
Module 5a
How Positive and Negative Schemas are Associated with Realistic Standards and Reciprocity; Multiple Intelligences
- The positive and negative schemas that are associated with the Core Emotional Need for Realistic Standards and Reciprocity
- Exploring different types of intelligences in children
Module 5b
Emphasising Effort versus Results
- The harm that comes from focussing on results
- How to motivate children
Module 5c
How Parent’s Involvement Can be an Asset or a Liability; Understanding Underachievement
- When are parent’s involvement a liability
- Causes of underachievement
- Examples of Appropriate Nurturing Interactions for Realistic Standards and Reciprocity
Module 6a
Developing Intrinsic Values in Children
- Helping children on how to view themselves, others, right and wrong
- Identifying the intrinsic values that mean the most to you
Module 6b
The Importance of a Functional Community
- Difference between a value based and a functional based community
- Introducing mentoring
- Partnership between mentors and parents
- Examples of Appropriate Nurturing Interactions for Intrinsic Values and Community
Module 7
How to Repair and Reconnect with Adolescents and Adult Children
- Understanding what goes on in a conflict
- Steps on how to repair a fractured relationship
- How to be Vulnerable
